Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Let’s Get Back To Our Writing Best

From Writerslife.org:
Let’s Get Back To Our Writing Best -Writer's Life.org


We can all get into a bit of a writing slump from time to time and find it difficult to stay motivated. Sometimes even writing at all can feel like a massive chore, and when you do the words just don’t seem to flow like they used to. You read back over what you have written and wonder what on earth you were thinking!
Getting back to making your writing awesome again means making a conscious effort to pull you out of that writing slump, to break the writer's block, and perhaps, most importantly, to believe in yourself once more. 
So how can we get back to that phase where everything we wrote seemed powerful and easy and effortless, where we looked forward to starting the writing day, itching to begin? 
Here are some helpful tips to try:
1. Stop criticising yourself
You need to be your biggest support, your biggest fan, your biggest believer. It is so easy for writers to wallow in wells of self-pity. But isn’t it time we started supporting ourselves? Treat yourself like you would a close friend, be your biggest cheerleader. It’s not about being arrogant, it’s about helping ourselves achieve our dreams, and feeling happier about it along the way. 
It's been said "we are our own worst critics," and I can that say I've been guilty of that at times. Thinking some of the art projects I did at work didn't look too good.  And right now, I feel my writing isn't long enough, because of how others have said editors need 90K words for "editing wiggle room." But I think the effort should count and that you should tell the story you intended to tell. I've done that last part, though when looking over it, I still find some things I want to add, delete or expand upon. I guess that's a natural part of writing.

2. Don’t be afraid of shocking people
The best writing is the most honest writing, it’s the rawest and most brutal. Often when we write it is easy to play down the experiences, to sugar coat everything because we are too scared of offending our readers, of putting people off. However, if you are honest with yourself about the way you want a scene to play out, or how that character would really feel in that moment, then you should write it that way. You readers will appreciate your story all the more for it. 
One thing I was apprehensive about when beginning my memoir was telling people how much bad stuff happened to me, how it seemed to outweigh the good stuff. This was one reason I chose not to use real names. I've been as honest as I can be with such details.

3. Be experimental
When it comes to writing some things just aren’t going to work. Why are we so afraid of that being the case? It’s brave and cool to try new things, you aren’t going to hurt anyone by doing so, and if they end up being pieces of writing you never use, or aren’t received well by your readers, that’s OK. Keep experimenting and one day you might just hit upon something that totally revolutionises the way you write. 
I've been saying in the last few posts on my blog that I want to try recalling dreams to see if they can work for me as a story. So far I haven't gotten round to this, but I am keeping it in mind. Even if I only remember a small portion of a dream, it still might work. 


4. Get inspired
Writing should always be catalysed out of inspiration. If you can remember this you’ll start to actively seek out experiences that are likely to inspire you and therefore motivate you to write even more. Tell yourself that you are an artist, you don’t need to write like a robot. Read, listen to music at top volume, go for long walks, sit quietly in a room for an hour, drink wine, read excellent books, make something with your hands, travel, marvel, laugh and cry - there are so many ways to get inspired - but don’t just sit there waiting for it to come to you.
Again, the dreams idea may prove inspirational. I'm not sure if traveling is in my future or budget, but just a drive somewhere new might be inspiring. I haven't had much inclination to get out for long periods of time. This seems to be from being confined for almost two months because of sickness and rain. Even after Daylight Saving Time began, I still find myself getting tired earlier. Maybe this will get better once summer hits and the weather is warmer.


Deciding to dedicate yourself to your writing and get back to writing your best is a wonderful feeling - even taking those first steps will feel positive and exciting. We all need a little motivation from time to time - just remember you have the tools to get there, you just need to help yourself.
How do you do this for yourself?




Monday, April 10, 2017

National Library Week 2017

It's National Library Week. Here are the books I currently have out:


Unlucky 13--James Patterson
Easter Bunny Murder--Leslie Meier
Ash--Malinda Lo
Fuzzy Mud--Louis Sacahar (audiobook)
Let's Dance a Waltz--Natsumi Ando (Graphic novel/Manga)
The Cat Who Had 14 Tales--Lilian Jackson Braun
Turbo Twenty-Three--Janet Evanovich



From the link above:

Ways to Celebrate National Library Week

1. Visit your library.

Head to your public, school or academic library during National Library Week to see what's new and take part in the celebration.  Libraries across the country are participating. 

2. Show your support for libraries on social media.

Help spread the word about National Library Week by sharing these images on your blog or social media channel. Follow I Love Libraries on Facebook and Twitter and the hashtags #NationalLibraryWeek and #LibrariesTransform to join the celebration on social media.

Sunday, April 9, 2017

Just Because You Find Writing Hard It Doesn’t Mean You’re Not A Writer


ust Because You Find Writing Hard It Doesn’t Mean You’re Not A Writer - Writer's Life.org

Ever meet one of those writers who truly believes that writing is their destiny? That they have always just known that they ‘have to write.’ The ones who claim to wake up in the middle of the night and simply must get out of bed and write until the crack of dawn because the words just simply pour out of them?
Perhaps I sound a little bitter. However, I do think that while it is wonderful for those writers who feel as though they have found their true calling through writing, for most of us it’s a struggle. Yes I admit it, I think writing is frustrating and it's tiring and it's difficult.
Writers are notoriously hard on themselves, and this is something that we should learn to change. We need to be our biggest supporters, our biggest fans. However, sometimes it is simply not as easy as that.
Many writers struggle to write, and just because you do doesn’t mean you are not a true writer, nor does it mean you’re not as talented and hard-working as other writers, or that you deserve a publishing deal any less.
It’s OK if writing isn’t your entire universe. If you love writing your book but you only do it on weekends and sometimes not even then because frankly you just want to have a lie in or have drinks with friends or watch tv all day and not care about anything else. 
Writers seem to think that unless you write full time, that you have a ‘proper’ book publishing deal and that you spend every living breathing minute of your life tap, tap tapping away on your computer that you shouldn’t call yourself a writer - and that people will mock you and laugh in your face, or patronise and belittle you, or think that you are supremely arrogant and pompous if you do.
Many writers feel as though they are imposters, even when they are successful they find it tough to believe that they have any authority on the subject and bestowing upon themselves the title of ‘writer’ seems big-headed and foolish.
Writing doesn’t have to be effortless, and being a writer certainly isn’t. Even the most famous and successful of writers have talked about their struggles, and their frustration and pain when writing hasn’t gone their way, or when they’ve tried to write but been unable to, or have thought their writing was dreadful, torn it all up and started again. 
If we believe that to be a writer you have to consistently produce work without having to think about it, that the words simply fall, perfectly formed and beautiful from your head to the page, then really how many people could actually call themselves one?
We should never let our writing fears hold us back, and accepting that writing is hard is just one of the things we should do to help us believe in ourselves more. 
If we can concentrate on writing a little bit every day, not worrying about the final product, accepting that writing is a learning process and there will always be more to learn and new ways to grow. If we can support one another, and, above all, keeping pushing through even when writing feels painful and boring and tedious we might just be writers after all!

Yes, I have felt that not writing everyday does not make me a true writer. But now that I have read this I believe that doing just a little whenever you can helps you become the writer you've wanted to be.  Last night, I found myself editing more of my memoir, in one of the chapters I'd edited recently. I still have more chapters to edit and print. The ones I found myself editing were among those I'd recently edited and printed.  Sometimes  I'll looked at the most recently printed copy to edit or I will look on the computer copy, since I am on the computer nearly all the time! I've made so many printouts I have to keep them separate as not be confused. What started out as 89 pages has since increased to 141 pages at present (This is including the title page and table of contents page). Also, I got a new computer last December and have the new Mac word processing program as a result, and that accounts for the increase as well as the details  I added and those on which I expanded. I copied my original manuscript from the PDF I had sent as an email attachment since the original email with the attachment is still in my "sent-email" folder. 
I'm not sure I want to say I'm finding writing hard. Rather I'm finding it a little hard to do as much as I think I should write each day. But now I think any little bit helps you to get better and be the writer you want to be. 

As I said in this post, I believe everyone the writer's life in their own way, doing what works best and when for each of them. It does not always have to be a scenario like this:














[Of course today, most of us are using a computer for our stories, but you get the idea:) ]

I keep thinking I want to try some writing in a notebook at night while in bed , but have found myself too tired to do so. I mostly read at night when I can't sleep. I've wanted to try jotting down some of my dreams, even just portions, to see where I can go from there. I just haven't been doing so. I guess I may have to push myself more to do so.  I do recall a portion of a dream I had recently that I have been wanting to make down, but I still haven't!  Often it's just hard to push oneself into to doing things like this.  But if you want to do it, you will. I want to try at some point to do any or all of these ideas.





Thursday, April 6, 2017

9 Tips for Dealing with the Emotions When Writing a Memoir

From the Huffington Post:



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Writing a memoir is much like going through your trunk of family treasures and keepsakes. At times the memories may be fuzzy, just like the ink on the pages of that 70-year-old journal your great-grandmother kept. Sometimes the memories may be painful, much like the ring your father gave you before he passed away. And sometimes the memories may be glorious, like the wedding dress you have stored safely, in hopes that your daughter may one day wear the family heirloom.
Due to the emotions that emerge in memoir writing, it is often necessary that the writer understand how to navigate and conquer the writing process, in spite of the added element of being taken for a ride on an emotional roller coaster each time one sits down to write. There are strategies writers can use to help ease the pain, slow the emotional twists and turns, and take the raw emotions and coat them with a little extra love and understanding, so as not to startle our readers. 
As I work with memoir writers of all ages and backgrounds, we have collectively been creating a list of strategies which help us better cope with the emotional aspects of writing a memoir. I know the pain, and pleasure, first hand. In fact, when the hard parts of my own memoir became too much to write, I actually had to pack up and go to a little cabin in the woods to finish the chapters I had skipped. Being alone allowed me the space and time I needed to process the raw emotions and put them down in draft form. That little cabin held my pain, my rage, and soaked up my tears... ultimately allowing me 10 days later to emerge with a finished manuscript.
9 Tips for Dealing with the Emotions When Writing a Memoir
1. Many writers are concerned about the pain they will bring to others — especially when writing a memoir. I must say that this is a real issue we all face with this genre — whether it is pain caused unintentionally, by sarcasm, just by telling the truth, or an invasion of privacy. I sincerely believe most of us do not set out to hurt others, but if you are a writer, of any type, there is always going to be someone who is hurt or who doesn’t agree with you. My best advice is to write the truth, always, and know going in that if you can stand in your truth, and speak from a place of truth, this will bring you much comfort when the questions start pouring in from your readers.

2. The memoir genre is unique in that you need to be able to provide emotional distance for your readers. That distance, at times, is closeness, and at times needs to be far away. I think this “distance piece” is what attracts readers and pulls them in. Raw emotions usually emerge first, and sometimes we can leave them as is — and at other times we need to wrap them in love and understanding and softened tones, so that we don’t offend our audiences. The key is that you just have to write — and write a lot — many drafts, many entries, many rewrites — so that you can eventually find the right emotional distance and balance you desire in your story line.

3. Fuzzy memories and gaps in memories are real obstacles for many memoir writers. We may spend much time thinking about how to make our memories sharper — but there is really only one solution to getting the sharp memories back: We must write, consistently. A daily writing practice helps the memories resurface. And what if you happen to get super-stuck? Well, just skip that memory and continue writing the next part of your memoir. Most likely, later into the writing process, your mind will recall the details. And if not? Well, a great editor will help you patch up those gaps!

4. I believe it is imperative that memoir writers balance the negative and the positive memories — so that we can sustain our energy levels and complete the manuscript. At first, when writing my own memoir, I wasn’t adhering to this “rule” at all. It took a toll on my writing and my stamina. I quickly learned to balance the writing each day — some days were “negative” memory days, and they were always followed by “positive” memory days. 

5. All writers need a support system in place. This could be a family member or friend, writing coach, or a fellow writer who we can go to when the writing gets tough, or when we need a dose of encouragement. For memoir writers, especially, because we are often dealing with highly charged emotions, and then reliving them all over again in our writing, I think a support system is even more important. Having a solid support system in place is more valuable than you might realize. 

6. It’s okay to cry, scream, yell, weep, and hit your pillow! Holding in the emotions as the memories emerge in your writing may do more harm than good. So, let them go. It’s okay, I promise.

7. Take time off, especially when you are feeling very fragile or vulnerable. While writing my memoir, I kept a list of enjoyable things I had always wanted to do. And then, when I needed a break, I took time away and rewarded myself with a special treat. Writing is hard work — and you deserve time away so you can recharge.

8. Keeping a journal will be a beneficial tool for you as you process emotions, or capture memories as they filter back into your consciousness. Journaling is therapeutic on so many levels, and I used mine quite frequently while writing my memoir. My journal, at times, became my own personal counselor.

9. Whatever you do, don’t stop writing. Your memoir is important, and you will impact more people than you could ever imagine, once your book is done. And besides, you set out to write a memoir, and you will feel proud when your project is complete! 


The first was one that I was worried about the most when I began taking down notes for my memoir.  This I noted in several blog posts last year as I began this process. Premature anxiety over possible lawsuits or even just mere anger from people mentioned by name.  At first, I did not try to think of names, even fake ones, but got tired of having nameless people. So I looked at the intros to memoirs that have been published and saw that the author did in fact change names, so I have been doing the same. Some people's names I could not recall at all, so I left those nameless. Other people I didn't even try to come up with a fake name for, but it remains to be seen if I will (still working on the thing).

As far as crying and such goes, I have been crying less than I had before the Prozac. I was very prone to tears over a lot of things that I have recalled in my memoir, including some that seemed less tear-worthy than others. In Prozac Nation, the author recalled being deprived of her tears when her mother was mugged. I too, have often feel deprived of tears when I feel a need for them most. Only once can I recall ever crying since being on Prozac, over feeling discouraged about writing my memoir, thinking it was too similar to what had been written. I recently felt like crying, but the tears just didn't come.

I still am in want and need of a support group for writers that is near me. I've tried posting on Facebook about people who may be interested in starting such a group, but to no avail. I'd be glad to get just one person to read my work in progress.

I have pondered going to my storage unit to find the journals I was asked to keep the first time I went to behavioral health services and was on Paxil and other SSRIs (other than Prozac) to see what I had written then. This in order to expand on those and others details I've already mentioned from that era. Mostly I've been writing what I can recall now, and what I feel is necessary to what I am writing about.

Taking time off from writing my memoir is what I have seemed to be doing recently. It was last weekend that I did my latest revision. But I have been too tired the last few days to do any revising. This makes me feel as if I am neglecting my work entirely, but as the article says, take some time off. Which is was I appear to be doing right now.  Will be getting back soon.





Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Do You Use Dreams for Stories?

Lately, I've been having dreams that I seem to think will make a good story. The only trouble is how to remember them the next day. But even if I recall just a fragment of a dream, it may still work.I may now try to write down what I can remember from my dreams to see what could possibly come out of them.

Some popular books have been based on dreams, I just learned today as I Googled information for this blog. Here are some:
From Pastemagazine.com:
10 Great Stories Inspired by Dreams and Visions
1. Mary Shelley’s Frankenstein (1818)
Hanging out in the Swiss Alps during the summer of 1816, Mary Godwin (not yet married to Percy Bysshe Shelley) was roped into a highbrow writing contest. “We will each write a ghost story,” announced the party’s host, Lord Byron. Neither Byron nor Shelley came up with much, but two truly immortal monsters were born, via John Polodori’s The Vampyre and Frankenstein, or The Modern Prometheus. With a head full of an evening’s talk of reanimation and galvanism, Mary Godwin did not sleep well: “My imagination, unbidden, possessed and guided me, gifting the successive images that arose in my mind with a vividness far beyond the usual bounds of reverie….I saw the pale student of unhallowed arts kneeling beside the thing he had put together. I saw the hideous phantasm of a man stretched out…” She realized she had found her “ghost story.” “What terrified me will terrify others; and I need only describe the spectre which had haunted my midnight pillow.”
2. Robert Louis Stevenson’s The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde (1886)
The split personality—or, to be more scientifically accurate, disassociative identity disorder— got its most famous fictional account as the result of an 1885 nightmare. As Stevenson’s wife told her husband’s biographer: “In the small hours of one morning,[...]I was awakened by cries of horror from Louis. Thinking he had a nightmare, I awakened him. He said angrily: ‘Why did you wake me? I was dreaming a fine bogey tale.’ I had awakened him at the first transformation scene.” Sick and bedridden, Stevenson wrote and rewrote the story, publishing it as a novella the next year.
3. Joseph Heller’s Catch-22 (1961)
One of the best-ever novels about war apparently came unbidden to Heller, an ad man who had served in World War II. As he told the Paris Review: “I was lying in bed in my four-room apartment on the West Side when suddenly this line came to me: ‘It was love at first sight. The first time he saw the chaplain, Someone fell madly in love with him.’ I didn’t have the name Yossarian. The chaplain wasn’t necessarily an army chaplain—he could have been a prison chaplain. But as soon as the opening sentence was available, the book began to evolve clearly in my mind—even most of the particulars . . . the tone, the form, many of the characters, including some I eventually couldn’t use. All of this took place within an hour and a half. It got me so excited that I did what the cliché says you’re supposed to do: I jumped out of bed and paced the floor. That morning I went to my job at the advertising agency and wrote out the first chapter in longhand…. I don’t understand the process of imagination—though I know that I am very much at its mercy. I feel that these ideas are floating around in the air and they pick me to settle upon.”
4. William Styron’s Sophie’s Choice (1979)
In what Styron called “a kind of waking vision” one morning in the mid-1970s, the concept of his best novel came forward. He had been struggling with writing another book when he experienced “the remnant of a dream”: “I think there was a merging from the dream to a conscious vision and memory of this girl named Sophie. And it was powerful because I lay there in bed with the abrupt knowledge that I was going to deal with this work of fiction.” The vision involved Sophie “entering the hallway of this humble boarding house in Flatbush with a book under her arm, looking very beautiful in the middle of summer with a sort of summer dress on and her arm bared and the tattoo visible….I was seized by this absolute sense of necessity—I had to write the book. I realized then that it would end as it did in the book.” (Naomi Epel book)
5. Allan Gurganus’ “It Had Wings” (1990) Featured in his collection White People, this story came from a dream in which he was standing in a suburban kitchen: “I saw something fall in the backyard that was the color of a Caucasian. It fell with a kind of smack onto green grass near a picnic table. It seemed to have fallen from about five miles up in the sky, straight down into this little yard.” The sound the body made stayed with Gurganus: “It was a sound that I registered on the page, when I finally wrote the story, as thwunk.” Another element that stayed was the idea that this creature had wings. “What I had to do, and what I always have to do, is find the character to whom this happened.” The end result, in which an old woman discovers a fallen angel in her backyard, was turned into both a song and a limited-edition book, for which Gurganus provided the illustrations.
6. Dan Chaon’s “The Bees” (2002)
Chaon’s disturbing portrait of a man becoming unhinged by his five-year-old son’s nightmares had personal roots: “When my son was about 4 or 5, he went through a period of having night terrors. He would wake up screaming and screaming at the top of his lungs and we would jump up and go running in and then he would suddenly snap out of it and settle back peacefully to sleep. But when I tried to go back to sleep myself, it was full of anxious, ominous dreams, and the beginning of this story came out of that experience, those nightmares.”
7. Julia Slavin’s Carnivore Diet (2005)
Emerging from the unsettling dreams Slavin (and many others) experienced during the sniper attacks in the Washington, D.C. area in 2002, Carnivore Diet tells an unnerving story involving a mysterious beast stalking the district’s parks and alleyways.” Says Slavin: “No one really slept during that horrible time. I dreamed about eyes staring out from the woods. I dreamed about my son disappearing around corners.” Such fears gradually evolved into Chagwa, Carnivore Diet’s hermaphroditic man-eating monster.
8. Colson Whitehead’s Zone One (2011) 
This post-apocalyptic zombie story is told from the p.o.v. of an utterly average survivor whose job is to help clear buildings of the infected. It sprang from one of the many zombie dreams that Whitehead has said he has had since seeing Dawn of the Dead at age 12. He had houseguests at the time and in the dream, they had finally left. “In the dream,” Whitehead has said, “I thought to myself, ‘I wonder if they swept all their zombies out.’” From this starting point, Whitehead proceeded to transplant these zombies into another of his complicated, favorite things, his hometown of New York City; Zone One is Lower Manhattan.
9. Jason Mott’s The Returned (2013)
Inspired by what Mott calls “a classic visitation dream,” The Returned tells the story of a sudden spate of individuals who come back from the dead, not zombified but just as they were when they died. In Mott’s dream, his mother sat at his kitchen table and the two of them had a conversation catching up on all Mott had been doing since she had died in 2001. “I woke up the next morning and genuinely expected to find her sitting at the table. It was that vivid.” The book, whose plot somewhat resembles the French TV series Les Revenants, has been optioned by Brad Pitt’s production company for an American series, due in March 2014.
10. George Saunders’ “The Semplica Girl Diaries” (2013)
In 1998, Saunders had a dream that he was in his own house, looking out at his backyard from a window that didn’t exist in real life. Outside were four women hanging on a line, and the line ran through their heads. As Saunders told one bookstore audience, they had “these beautiful white smocks and they weren’t hurt….In the dream the person I was in the dream wasn’t going “Omigod, what happened?’ He was saying, ‘I am so lucky. That is so great. We finally did it. We finally got the yard up to snuff for the kids.’ [Chuckles] So welcome to my dream life.” Saunders says it took years and innumerable false starts to refine the story’s well-meaning but hopelessly misguided narrator and to devise a narrative that didn’t come across like a lecture on oppression.
And some from this Huffington Post article:
Edgar Allan Poe’s Poetry
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Edgar Allan Poe suffered from nightmares throughout his life, and they were said to sometimes inspire his poems and short stories. He also wrote several poems about the phenomenon of dreaming (“Dream-Land” and “A Dream Within A Dream,” notably). 
As Poe wrote in his 1839 essay “An Opinion On Dreams,” dreams are a powerful form of consciousness: 
That dreams, or, as they were then generally called, visions, were a means of supernatural instruction, if we believe the bible at all, is proved by Jacob’s dream, the several visions of Ezekiel and other prophets, as also of later date, the Revelations to Saint John; and there appears no reason why this mode of divine communication should be discontinued in the present day.
Stephen King’s “Dreamcatcher”
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Stephen King was hit by a minivan in 1999, while he was walking down a country road in Maine. While recovering from the collapsed lung and a shattered leg, the prolific horror writer began having vivid dreams. 
“The first really strong idea that occurred to me after the accident was: four guys in a cabin in the woods,” King told the San Francisco Chronicle in 2003. “Then you introduce this one guy who staggers into camp saying, ‘I don’t feel well,’ and he brings this awful hitchhiker with him. I dreamed a lot about that cabin and those guys in it.”
Those dreams formed the basis of the 2001 novel turned film Dreamcatcher. But it wasn’t the only work of King’s to be inspired by a dream: King has said that his dreams help him to portray events symbolically in his writing. 
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I must admit I have not read any of these books (and some I did not even know about until now), but since I have diversifying my reading recently, some--if not all--of these books may just go on my list.  Those who have read any of these, did you now they were based on dreams? 


And how about this one--did you know it started as a dream? I didn't know, until today:




Monday, April 3, 2017

How To Turn Your Story From Good To Great


Writing your book might be one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. But what is the point in putting all that time and effort into it if you aren’t willing to do everything you can to make it the very best it can be?

You may think that getting your entire story down on paper is the hardest part of writing your book, but really that’s you just getting started!
Once you go back and begin to redraft your story that’s when the hard work really begins, and where you have an opportunity to really make your story stand out.
So how do you turn a story from good to great?
Use all five senses
It’s so important to use all five senses in our stories to really draw the reader in. Knowing what things smell, taste, sound or feel like as well as what they look like is how a reader can become immersed in the fictional world you have created.
Remember that senses can be used to say things that are unsaid, and doing so can increase dramatic effect. If something sweet tastes bitter to a character, for example, this gives us insight into their state of mind. If they can’t feel the heat on their face despite the sunshine, similarly, this lets the reader know how they are feeling.
Use the senses to create drama, to help readers engage with your characters and to transport them seamlessly into the heart of your story so they feel as though they are right there too.

Create memorable characters
It is easy to turn a character from typical to memorable. Simply make them flawed, freakish or eccentric in some way. A limp, a scar, a funny way of breathing, the way someone dresses or talks, an unsettling tic, extra long fingernails, a weird ritual that they have to do every morning. There are so many ways to add little idiosyncrasies here and there to your characters to make them stand out, but also more relatable too – remember humans are pretty weird after all!

Push the boundaries
This could be your boundaries or the boundaries of writing or even society. Basically, take some risks and go to places you might not feel that comfortable going.
Write sex scenes but don’t make them loving and neat, make them awkward or violent or graphic. If one of your characters is a bit racist, make them so, don’t skirt delicately around the subject. Your book doesn’t have to be pretty, your book doesn’t have to be safe. If you are willing to push the boundaries and stop censoring yourself you might well come up with some pretty compelling stuff.

Make your readers laugh
If you can make your readers laugh, or even just smile or smirk a little, your novel will improve. You don’t have to write a funny story in order for it to have elements of humour. Even in the most tragic situations, there is comedy to be found after all. Smart, witty characters are lively and engaging so if you can find a way to be funny every now and again your readers will appreciate it.

Make your readers cry
The books that stick out most for me are the ones that have made me cry. Some of them haven’t even been that sad, but still, have moved me in a way to the point where I’m all teary-eyed and filled with wonder. If you can make your readers cry they are emotionally connected with your book, they care – and that’s what writing a great story is all about!

I'm not sure, how, if at all, the above applies to memoir writing.  Many memoirs read more like novels, even if they are based on a true story. Some contain humor, which may have been the author's intent.  And if it's memoir on depression (as I have been working on), it's supposed to make you cry at some point in the story--shouldn't that be true? Notice how it says, "...If one of your characters is depressed it’s OK to write about the weird dark thoughts that they have. ..." Perhaps that could apply to a memoir on depression.

Even if I don't apply all the above ideas to memoir writing, I will keep them in mind should I try a fictional novel, which I have already begun, though I haven't worked on that one much recently. I'm still too preoccupied with the memoir, thinking it's not long enough for a traditional publisher.  I'm now in the 35K range, which many people say is too short. Many have said different traditional publishers require a particular length, such as up to 90K words, to have wiggle room for editing.  This has recently made feel discouraged, as I feel I have just been adding stuff just to make it longer. I believe effort put into the work should count more than the number of words. I've also been told that traditional publishers rarely print memoirs of non-famous people so I may have to consider self-publishing. And someone I know from college said the other day, that self-publishing should be considered if you (I'm paraphrasing): "...just want to get it 'off your chest' to share with some friends. But if you want to make money

I've looked up word counts for various memoirs using this site: readinglength.com. Most of those I have liked up have been 60K words or more, some more than 100K. But When I looked up this one (I found a used copy at a thrift store), the edition I found is said to be 40,610 words. It's a very short book, so before I looked it up, I guessed it could not be in the 60K range or more. And I'd guessed right.  But I still can't seem to think that some people will say my memoir isn't long enough, and I'm hesitant about the possibility of self-publishing (one again, I'm thinking too far ahead!).  But others keep telling me I should not be worried about the word length, as  long as I enjoy what I am doing. I do enjoy what I am doing, but still feel I don't have as exciting a story as many of the memoirs I have read. It seems like you have to have a Harvard education, a rare disease  or condition, or have gone on a long quest just to be able to have an interesting story, but many have said none of that is true. I'm trying hard to believe all this.