Thursday, May 11, 2017

What To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

 What To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up- Writer's
No one ever said that writing was easy, and as writers and authors, we know better than anyone that writing requires dedication, determination and perseverance even when we feel like we are getting nowhere at all.
If you’ve been writing for a while, you’ll no doubt have had low moment, ones where you just can’t think how to get over a writing hurdle, where you feel overwhelmed by the amount of work you have to do, where you feel you aren’t good enough and you just can’t bring yourself to sit down and get on with it anymore.
In short, we’ve all felt like giving up once in a while.
It’s important, however, during these moments of despair, to keep on writing, This may be easier said than done, but there are ways that you can help yourself to get over it more quickly. So next time you feel like giving up, try some of these:
Take a walk
Sometimes you end up spending hours cramped over your desk, having consumed so much coffee you don’t know what’s going on. Doing something simple like taking a walk in the fresh air, somewhere beautiful, having a good stretch and getting a little exercise is all you need to clear your head and make you feel ready to sit down and start work once more.
I need to do this more often, or at the very least, step outside. I'm not a coffee person, but i drink caffeinated soda in the same manner others drink coffee. 

Seek advice
If you are suffering from a writing problem why suffer alone? We wouldn’t with any other difficulty we face so why do we feel as though we must work through our writing problems all by ourselves? A family member or friend, a fellow writer, a mentor, or an online group - you can easily find people who will be willing to help you and encourage you if you are stuck with your writing, and will help you figure a way forward.
This is why I have been wanting to find others to read and critique my writing. I haven't tried an online group either, but I really want to have someone do this in person.  

Try a new project
If you are finding yourself losing interest in a particular writing project, set it aside for a while and work on something else. The key here is to keep writing, make that a priority above all else and you might find that when you return to your previous work you look at it with a fresh pair of eyes and can see how to make it work once more.
I have begun writing a new story, but I haven't made any progress on it recently.  But I know what I plan to do.  And I may just try more journaling. even some poetry writing. I've been ding the Words for Wednesday meme at this blog since the beginning of the month. It gives me a chance to write something small for practice. And so far it's been fun.

Remember everyone fails
Take solace in the fact that it is rare a writer won’t feel full of self-doubt and crippling hopelessness at some point during their career! It’s easy to find stories of multiple rejections, of writers struggles, of times where even the most famous and successful authors wanted to give up - but remember that they didn’t, and neither should you.
I haven't finished yet, so I don't yet know when I'll be seeking an editor, then a publisher.  But I know to expect some rejection at some point.  But I will not give up, once this time comes. 

Get to the root of the problem
Sometimes we can feel so overwhelmed by our writing problems we can’t clearly see what they are. It might be that there is just one specific thing you need to change or rework or figure out and then suddenly that doom-like cloud will be lifted. So next time you feel like giving up really search for the root of the problem and then tackle it head on.
I'm not sure if I have really dealt with this particular problem. But now I know how to solve it if it ever occurs.

Step away
Sometimes you need to detach yourself from your writing and gain some perspective in order to see it in a new light. This is particularly helpful if you find yourself feeling negative about your writing. Step away, leave your project for a while and go back to it when you are feeling more positive. Learning to manage and regulate your emotions and look at your work objectively and with a clear head can be so helpful.
I always do this. There will be times when I'm too overwhelmed to work on my story, but I will not let that get in the way of my finishing it, whenever that will be.  It's always good to take a break from anything you love.

Know what motivates you
Understanding your writing motivation can be so helpful when you feel like giving up. It might be that you need to reward yourself, it might be that you need to join a writing group so you have the support of others, it might be that you need to simply remind yourself of why you love writing in the first place. Read over old work you are proud of, remind yourself of your previous success and use these to keep you motivated.
All good ideas, though I'm still at a loss for finding a group nearby. 

Stay positive!
It’s so easy to get into a cycle of negativity when it comes to writing. If you feel yourself full of self- doubt, try to break the cycle as soon as possible. You aren’t helping yourself by being negative. be open to learning and improving for sure, but try to change your behaviour, complement yourself, big yourself up, become a fan - more than anything we need to believe in ourselves so try to stay positive and suddenly things will seem a whole lot better!
Definitely good advice to follow.

Remember, we’ve all felt like giving up at one point or another, but think about how many writers have regretted persevering? Don’t be a writer that ends up full of regret because you gave up - keep writing, stay positive and soon you’ll be back on track!

I did at one point get discouraged, regarding the length and word count, but I have kept on going. But I now know what do if I should feel like giving up. But I will try not to feel that way.


Out on the prairie said...

it can't be a fun write if drags you down.Sometimes we need to laugh at our problem, even ourself

R's Rue said...


Sandra Cox said...

Lots of good advice here.

Unknown said...

Great post and good advice! Thanks for sharing!
It really mirrors the anguish we often live regarding our writing process.

Best regards from Dracula's country!

Elephant's Child said...

I am really glad to hear that our meme has helped - and has been fun.
And this reader is endlessly grateful to all writers for their inspiration, perseverance and hard work.

Nas said...

Awesome post with excellent advice. It resounded with me. We should seek help.

Lowcarb team member said...

Some good advice given ...

All the best Jan

Jean Davis said...

All good advice. Try an online group. You may find people there that are somewhat nearby. I happened to find several other writers that way that I didn't know we're around me.